#4. “Your calves are scary.”
This was meant as a compliment to a woman who was a runner. While it’s nice to be admired for our muscles, it’s another thing entirely to use the word scary in reference to our physique. I’ve heard it elsewhere, too: “That girl’s body is sick!” In general, I’d advise against using language that sounds like we either need to be institutionalized or hospitalized, regardless of your good intentions.
SAY THIS INSTEAD: “Your legs look so toned!”
Use the word toned to describe our bodies. (In our brains, oftentimes, athletic or strong seem like euphemisms for big. You know, masculine. You’re basically calling us heifers.) We can’t argue with toned; you’re dishing out a word that serves up the least connotation-wise and the most compliment-wise.
Also, make sure that the body part you’re discussing is G-rated unless you’ve seen that body part naked multiple times before. Hearing how much you like our ass when we’ve only been on one date is just creepy. You don’t even know my ass like that yet.
