#7. There’s No Silent Treatment
“Most fights I’ve encountered happen like this: I do something (either I know I do it or I think I’ve done something but am not quite sure) and I get the “It’s all good.” response when I ask what’s wrong. I get that reply a handful of times until finally she spills what’s bugging her. It’s not always easy for me to talk about feelings and what’s bothering me — I come from a family of four brothers, so sharing things like that always translated into fights or at least getting called a pussy — but I’ve worked at it and have gotten better. She needs to be as open with me as I’m willing to be with her in that the only way to avoid unnecessary fights is to keep the lines of communication open.”
—Mike N., Palo Alto, CA
#8. She’s Willing To Explore (In The Bedroom And Outside Of The Bedroom)
“In the bedroom and out, I need a woman who won’t wait for me to drive the ship. You want me to do something taboo in the sack? Tell me! You want to go on a hike? Bring it up! In the past, I’ve been the one having to do that. When you have a full-time job and have a relationship that’s a full-time job on top of that, being the one that’s attempting to move the relationship forward is exhausting. It has to be a 50-50 thing.”
—Ryan F., Morristown, NJ
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